4 Keys to Small Group Friendships

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Everyone knows in their heads that friendships are important. The pandemic seemed to heighten interest in the topic of friendship. You could hardly turn on your phone or TV without a significant number of popular culture events and stories through the news and social medias related to the subject. But the experience of many is that we’re in a pronounced decline when it comes to experiencing friendships. This makes small group friendships even more important in todays world. The May 2021 American Perspectives Survey[1] came to the following findings about people and their friendship experiences.

  • Fewer close friendships than they once did.
  • Talking to their friends less often.
  • Relying less on their friends for personal support.

Small Groups are the strategic place where friendships are made. We need to be intentional about making friends and connections throughout our Small Group efforts. Here are four key steps and skills that you need to develop in order to get the most out of your Small Group friendships.

4 Keys to Small Group Friendships

1. Vulnerability Takes Practice.

Our modern, 21st century live puts a premium on having our life together. Our teeth are straight and gleaming white. All our social media posts only talk about the success of ourselves and those around us. So, to become vulnerable, we have to practice it over and over, moving forward in step.

And just in case you’re normal, this is going to make you feel uncomfortable. The first time you try to be vulnerable it’s going to feel like someone’s pushing your guts through an emotional sausage grinder.

But like all things that we learn, it will get easier over time. If it takes practice to learn how to play a musical instrument, hit a golf ball, or drive a car, so it will take practice to become more and more vulnerable.

“I don’t believe that two people have the capacity to connect unless they both have their guards down, and one of the best ways to get people to relax is to lead with vulnerability.”

Will Guidara[2]

2. There’s No Autopilot Option.

Cars and planes have autopilot capabilities. All digital devices come with defaults that will get you going. But there’s nothing inside of us that will automatically guide us along the path to building connections and friendships.

I’d venture to say that the first tools we used to develop relationships no longer work. For example, how many times did you meet someone for coffee in years gone by? Today, there’s an undercurrent of distrust. The default for many is to avoid new people and public places. We need new strategies to spend time with people.

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Chet Gladkowskihttps://www.hopeisthekey.org/
Chet is the founder and president of GLAD Associates. His latest book, “HOPE is the Key – Living Through God’s Superpower" points everyone to the good news about Jesus Christ.

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